Lori Hattrick Primasing, Formerly of Southampton, Dies April 10

Lori Hattrick Primasing, formerly of Southampton, died peacefully in her sleep on April 10, after a brief and courageous battle with pancreatic cancer.

Born on May 14, 1962, in Rockville Centre, she was the second eldest daughter of William and Barbara Hattrick and was raised in Southampton alongside her five siblings. A gifted athlete, she played tennis and floor hockey all four years at Southampton High School, where her natural athleticism, competitiveness and discipline began to shine.

She earned admission to Villanova University through sheer determination and hard work, graduating with a degree in business in 1984. She began her professional journey on Wall Street, embarking on a successful 10-year career in finance. She started as a bond salesperson at Carroll, McEntee & McGinley (later acquired by HSBC) and eventually transferred to San Francisco — where a classic office romance introduced her to the love of her life, Michael Primasing.

The two were married in 1988, and eventually settled in Alamo, California, where they raised their two sons, Steven and Daniel. She retired in 1998 to became a stay at home mom to take care of the boys.

She was an active and devoted member of St. Isidore Church in Danville, volunteering regularly and chairing the school’s annual auction. She was also deeply involved at Round Hill Country Club, where she served on multiple committees and the board of directors. She enjoyed traveling, entertaining, playing tennis and watching her sons’ rugby and lacrosse games at De La Salle High School.

In 2022, she and her husband moved to South Carolina, where she quickly became a vibrant part of the community. She enjoyed boating on the lake with family and friends, and became an excellent pickleball player and a frustrated golfer. She enjoyed card and board games and could spend hours playing with family and friends.

A talented cook and gracious hostess, she enjoyed nothing more than gathering friends and family around her table. Her dinner parties were legendary — always warm, welcoming, and filled with laughter and incredible food.

What set her apart, her family said, was not just how much she gave, but how effortlessly she gave it — her time, her energy, her heart. She didn’t need the spotlight to shine, they said, and she lit up the room simply by being in it. Her favorite motto was “Always be humble and kind” and that is exactly how she lived her life, they said.

She is survived by her husband of 37 years, Michael; her sons Steven of New York City and Daniel of Dallas; her father William Hattrick of Southampton; and her siblings, Lynn, Erin, Kerry, Ellen, and Sean, all of Southampton.

A service will be held at The Basilica Parish of the Sacred Hearts of Jesus and Mary on April 30 at 11:30 a.m.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to Saint Jude Children’s Research Hospital (stjude.org/donate) or East End Hospice (eeh.org).